Cute Western Cowgirl Costume

I am constantly searching for great Halloween get ups. My six year old daughter simply adores October 31st. She loves the idea of becoming someone else for this special night. Last year she went out as a cowgirl in a Cute Western Cowgirl Costume. Yeah, she simply prefers to go all out with that stuff.

Anyway, I searched through a number of great Halloween outfits before I finally found that one. This year it’s virtually the same deal. You know, I finally stopped bothering with the local Halloween superstores. You’ve surely seen them and they typically pop up in September.

Not that they don’t carry a few great Halloween outfits, but they always sell everything out so fast. That’s a major bummer when you have something special in mind.

If you want to make cute Halloween get ups, you can see what you can do with paint and some other items. At times, you only have to have some paint that will be used to make up a face, and then the rest of the Halloween costume should come to you. Just make sure the paint is not going to irritate your kid’s face.

You can always just go with a hoodie if you wish, or you can find other things like slippers that might complete your Halloween costumes. Cute is everywhere if you take the time to look closely. You can even find what you want in your own closet.

Take advantage of the vast selection of great Halloween attires like Western Rhinestone Cowgirl Costumes found in your very own home. Pop open that PC or Mac and get started today. Before you know it, October 31st will be here; the little trick-or-treaters will be wrapping at your door.

Online stores also offer a selection of Mother and daughter outfits, which are also good choices for teen girls taking younger children trick or treating.

Most of these specialized outfits are available in deluxe and ‘prestige’ versions, which include a little more detailing. Many are available in kid’s, teen’s and adult sizes, so everyone can get in on the fun.

Checkout Supermarket Jobs For An Excellent Career

They were once the preserve of teenagers looking to earn some extra spending money for their nights out with friends but, over the years, things have changed. Today, many adults choose supermarket jobs as useful part time positions to supplement their income, whilst others have them as their only job, in ever more financially challenging times.

For those looking at starting out in work for the first time or, should they have suffered from redundancy, looking at an industry that always has been and always will be resilient to economic conditions, supermarket jobs are a sensible choice. People will always have to eat and drink of course and require the basic necessities of life.

No matter what position somebody is working in, there is always the chance of progression for the staff. It is normal of course to start in a very junior, or entry level position. From stacking shelves, working on the tills, or bagging shopping however, there is a world of opportunity.

Many store managers and regional managers have had their first exposure through having a weekend job as a teen for example. Things go a good deal further than this though. In many areas in a modern grocery store, there are a great many different departments; delicatessens, bakeries, wines and spirits for example. Working in such departments brings a great deal of knowledge and experience.

Specialist knowledge learned in this way and from a recognized name in the sector always looks good on a person’s work history. Interest in a subject is also fuelled, which in itself could provide a great incentive to look at other careers which would otherwise not have been considered.

The giants in the sector are fast becoming providers of a great many other customer services away from mainstream groceries too; such as in the banking, insurance and home entertainment markets. Because of the multi faceted ways in which supermarkets present themselves today, working there can open up a wide range of careers to choose from.

As with working in any other environment, it is important to work hard and have a good attitude to be recognized and in so doing, be preferred for progression as and when openings come available. Supermarket jobs are always available no matter the area and, whilst they are often advertised online of course, there is still no better way to land on than going directly to the store and asking.

Therapy for Sex Addiction: Dealing With Intimacy

Any definition, discussion or exploration of compulsive sexuality begins thusly:

“Sex addiction is an intimacy disorder characterized by” blah, blah, blah.

Then it goes on to name the symptoms: pre-occupation with thoughts sexual; persistent, unrelenting urges to sexually act out; continued use despite adverse consequences, loss of control and so forth.

Such definitions are frustratingly vague. While emphasis is given to the symptoms of sex addiction, the idea of it being “an intimacy disorder” never seems to be addressed. This is unfortunate, indeed. I think a “disordered” pattern of intimate relations is at the core and foundation of this debilitating syndrome.

Vanilla sex addiction, fetishism, exhibitionism/voyeurism, BDSM, and all the other various and moribund kinds of sexual perversions are fueled by the very basic (and healthy) motivation to connect.

Sadly, somehow or other, the urge to connect is misfired. Rather than seeking a real relationship with a real person who might, in fact, satisfy some of one’s real relational needs, the sexually compulsive tries to connect with the “unreal” in fantasy. It is a solo act. Sex, for a person who has a perversion or addiction, is always a narcissistic, self-centered endeavor. It is not related sex. The endorphin rush of the sexual high is so dear to them that it precludes any idea of sharing sexual pleasure with a cherished one in the service of enhancing a bond.

What is intimacy?

Let’s look at the word “intimacy”. From the dictionary: the word is derived from the Latin intima, meaning “inner” or “inner-most.” The definition suggests that to be intimate, you need to know your real self. This ability to be in touch with our inner core is a requisite to being intimate.

Our intima holds the innermost part of ourselves, our most profound feelings, our enduring motivations, our values, our sense of right and wrong and our most embedded convictions about life. Importantly, our intima also includes that which enables us to express these innermost aspects of our person to “the other”.

So, to be in relationship, and to know yourself/your partner sexually, you need to know and respect your intima. The intima is also the way in which we value and esteem ourselves and determines how we are with being with others. To put it simply, if don’t value yourself, you can’t value another. If you’re not aware of needs and wants, or are shamed by them, then sex becomes no more than a fuck.

I think every person I’ve ever seen in my consulting room for sexual compulsions suffers from estrangement from his intimus. We can survive the disapproval of others. The feeling can be painful, but it’s nothing compared to the disapproval of ourselves. Your personal well being and your ability to love another cannot survive your dislike or disrespect of yourself. If you dislike yourself, you’ll never be comfortable with your sexuality.

It bears repeating… the outstanding quality of intimacy is the sense of being in touch with our real selves. When “the other” also knows and is able to express his/her real self, intimacy happens. Sexuality is both an expression of that intimacy and a bond that enhances intimacy. With this kind of personal/sexual intimacy, our growth experience as humans is energized, enhanced, and fueled. Intimacy is the most meaningful and courageous of human experiences. It’s why people long for it so.

The Perils of Intimacy

However, despite this universal longing, fear and avoidance of intimacy is a reality for many people. People fear and even dread that which they most long for. No wonder there’s such a demand for psychotherapists!

So why would people fear, avoid or sabotage this wonderful thing called intimacy and, in the process, avoid person-related sex?

Sexual compulsion is the end point, the tip of the iceberg, if you will, of a long history of developmental events that begin in early attachment difficulties with caretakes, subsequent overwhelming experiences the child is unable to assimilate, an impaired ability to regulate feelings and impaired self-development.

The capacity for bonding with others is vital for human survival and well-being. Our capacity for intimacy is formed in the crucible of the first two years of life. Mothers that are needy, narcissistic, depressed, enmeshed (over-involved), distant, too protective, controlling, chronically angry, addicted to substances, frustrated with their husbands and displace their needs onto their children… raise children who have the psychic imprint of closeness as being dangerous. They also raise children who will carry self-hatred into their adult lives unless they get good treatment.

If the child’s need for attention, soothing, stimulation, affection, touch, discipline, validation, and so on goes unmet, or is met with feedback that is punishing, invalidating or rejecting, the consequences are woven into the structure of the developing personality. Such children may turn into themselves and disconnect from others, regulating their emotions through the use of substances or process addiction, like sex. They fail to learn to utilize others to soothe or comfort themselves. This increases the child’s vulnerability to mental health problems. These people actively seek familiar environmental interaction, thereby recreating and reenacting familiar early rejections and frustrations with others. They spend their lives further cementing their original isolation.

They develop a rigid defense system (boundaries, walls, turning inward to not need others) in order to psychologically survive. But what worked for them as children doesn’t work for them as adults. For these people, the vulnerability of intimacy harkens back to a time when they were vulnerable as children and they fear re-traumatization in their current relationship.

When a person like this is loved – seen in an affirmative light and encouraged to grow and change – this rigid defensive structure is threatened, so their psychological equilibrium is disrupted. Being loved is not congruent with the negative tapes they run about themselves. They can’t allow the reality of being loved to affect their basic defensive structure. Being vulnerable and open to change feels so threatening that they eschew close relationships and mature sexuality.

Entering into a relationship without having some resolution of childhood wounds results in various kinds of fear of intimacy: fear of being found inadequate, fear of engulfment, fear of the loss of control, fear of losing autonomy, fear of attack, fear of disappointment and betrayal, fear of guilt and fear of rejection and abandonment and so forth.

For this reason, I believe that current sex addiction therapy doesn’t go far enough. Focusing on symptom change techniques, such as relapse prevention, abstinence and social skills training, is necessary, but not sufficient. Successful treatment for sexual compulsions ultimately depends on a depth-approach that can ameliorate the underlying attachment disorders and manifestations in adult intimacy. Literally, a new pattern of way of attaching needs to be “carved” into the brain – the person learns a totally different model of relating.